There seems to be a lot of talk everywhere about what is fair and what is not. Some of the greatest freedom fighters, Ghandi, Martin Luther King, Madiba…… dedicated their lives to fighting for the freedom, you can call it fairness. As to whether fairness has been achieved is a subject for discussion some other time.
Our idea of fairness isn’t actually obtainable. It’s really just a cloak for wishful thinking.
For they stood up against inhuman treatment, notice I said stood up. Madiba was imprisoned for 27 years but he never gave up on the struggle. But looking at the current state of affairs, majority of us seem to believe life has treated us unfairly, others feel life hasn’t treated them fairly enough. The million dollar questions is; what is fair? Is life fair? Should life be fair? The answers depend of your position in the book of your life.
We don’t get to make decisions on whether to come to this world or not, we have little choices early in life, but as we grow older choices abound. I have long believed that while we have no control over the beginning of our life, the overwhelming majority of us have the ability to influence the outcomes we attain. Fair is a state of mind, and most often, an unhealthy state of mind.
Most of us are beneficiaries of the outcomes we have contributed to, politically, socially, in business, or otherwise. Our state in life cannot, or at least should not, be blamed on our parents, our teachers, our religious leaders, our government, or our society. It’s largely based on the choices we make, and the attitudes we adopt.
There is nothing new that we go through that has not been faced by someone else. People have overcome poverty, drug addiction, incarceration, abuse, divorce, mental illness, dictatorships, and virtually every challenge known to man. Life is full of examples of the illiterates, physically challenged, people born into war-torn impoverished backgrounds, who could have complained about life being unfair, but who instead chose a different path. They chose to overcome the odds and to leave the world better than they found it. Regardless of the challenges they faced, they had the character to choose contribution over complaint.
I don’t dispute that challenges exist. I don’t even dispute that many have an uphill battle due to the severity of the challenges they face. What I vehemently dispute is attempting to regulate, adjudicate, or legislate fairness somehow solves the world’s problems. Mandates don’t create fairness, but people’s desire and determination can work around or overcome most life challenges.
It doesn’t really matter where you come from, life can never be fair to those who complain about things and compare themselves to others all the time, you have got to do something. We are all surrounded by stories of people who rose from grass to grace, they are not miracles, nor are they the rare exception. They do however demonstrate blindness to the mindset of the fairness doctrine.
Fair isn’t a standard to be imposed unless someone is attempting to impose mediocrity. Fair blends to a norm, and in doing so, it limits, inhibits, stifles, and restricts, all under the guise of balance and equality. I believe fair only exists as a rationalization or justification.
To me the harder we work, the fairer everything tends to be, everything says YES. Just because someone has more than what you have doesn’t make life unfair, there is much to work than to crave for fairness.
There are always better ways!